2-minute video of the ever blunt psychotherapist Dr. Pat Allen on why sex is risky business for normal sane women.

Once I sense she could be ‘the one,’ I stop thinking short-term . I catch myself talking about meeting her family or making plans months down the road stuff I normally wouldn’t do if I wasn’t serious. I Pay More Attention to Her Feelings I notice her moods and reactions more, and I actually care enough to ask how she’s doing.Even if I’m clueless sometimes, I’m trying harder than before because her emotions matter to me. I Try to Impress Her All Over Again After the early dating phase, I might relax a bit. But once I realize she’s different, I up my game: whether it’s hitting the gym, tidying up my place, or making more effort in general. I want her to see I’m serious, and that I’m not just coasting now that we’re ‘official.’ She Becomes My Priority Suddenly, I’d rather hang out with her than do my usual hobbies or boys’ nights out. Plans with her come first—even if it’s something like running errands together, it feels more important (and more fun) than being anywhere else. I Love Having Her Around—All the Time I want to include her in my social life, from parties to casual get-togethers, because I genuinely enjoy her company. It’s not about showing her off; it’s about wanting her by my side and sharing experiences together. I Get Protective Her well-being comes first. If she’s cold, I’m giving her my jacket; if she’s out late, I’m offering to pick her up. It ’s not just possessiveness—though I might get jealous occasionally—it’s that I really do worry about her safety and comfort. I’ll Step Out of My Comfort Zone for Her If I hate flying or dancing, but she wants to go somewhere that requires it, I’ll swallow my nerves and give it a shot. My Feelings Are Consistent No more hot-and-cold or mixed signals. Once I’m sure, I’m all in. I Care About Her Opinion I ask for her thoughts on everything, from big career moves to smaller day-to-day decisions. She’s part of my future, so her perspective counts. I want her to feel involved,

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New York City is packed with unique spots for a memorable first date! Here are 10 ideas: Walk through Central Park A stroll through Central Park is always romantic, especially if you grab a coffee or have a picnic. You can also rent bikes or row a boat at the Loeb Boathouse. Visit the Museum of Modern Art (MoMA) If you both appreciate art, visiting MoMA is a great way to spark conversation and enjoy world-famous exhibits. Brooklyn Bridge Walk Take a walk across the iconic Brooklyn Bridge, then explore DUMBO for picturesque views of the skyline and great places to grab a bite. Rooftop Bar with a View Head to a rooftop bar like 230 Fifth  or The Press Lounge  for breathtaking views of the city, especially at sunset or after dark. A Night at the Comedy Cellar If you want to laugh together, the Comedy Cellar in Greenwich Village is one of the best comedy clubs in NYC. Great for lighthearted fun and a chance to bond over shared humor. Explore the High Line This elevated park offers great views, art installations, and spots to stop and chat while walking through the Chelsea neighborhood. Catch a Broadway Show Nothing beats the excitement of seeing a Broadway show together. From popular musicals to quirky plays, there's something for everyone. Take a Ferry to Staten Island Hop on the Staten Island Ferry for free views of the Statue of Liberty and the Manhattan skyline. Once you get there, grab a bite and explore Staten Island’s waterfront. Karaoke at Karaoke City If you're in the mood for something fun and interactive, karaoke is a lively and engaging first date idea! Karaoke City offers private rooms for singing your heart out. Indulge in Dessert at Magnolia Bakery Treat yourselves to some iconic NYC sweets, like banana pudding or cupcakes, at the famous Magnolia Bakery. Enjoying a sugary treat is an easy way to break the ice! What kind of vibe are you aiming for? More chill or adventurous?