While I advocate for everyone to know their non-negotiables attributes of an ideal partner, it is also imperative to be fair. Do you have what it takes to give back ? My mother is a straightlaced, frank type of a woman. Probably because of her age and aging mind, she barely cares about her censoring her opinions. She understands that she is not a sensual lover as my dad, though my dad tried various method of videos and gentle coaxing to get my mother (who almost became a nun) to shed her conservative nature. Alas, it is not happening. Not even after about 50 years of marriage. On my mother's list is to marry a man who is responsible enough, handsome enough and evenly-tempered enough. Her non-negotiables are: a man who doesn't hit a woman and who doesn't force to do anything more than the basics in the bed area. Did I mentioned she applied for nun-ship? She is pretty much content with her marriage because her list were fairly simply. On the other hand, my romantic father thought she can change my mother. Probably, in his list, at number 275 is a sweet, sensual woman. His catwoman fantasy will not come into fruition because his priority was a virtuous woman who almost vowed celibacy forever. Almost. Know who you are and get realistic with your list.

If you are dating (or married) using your cerebral cortex, the logical part of the brain, then this does Not apply to you. Dating because of family pressure, religious and societal bucket list cannot turn into a nightmare on a deeper emotional sense , as Dr. Henrick Harville explains. True emotional healing that leads to amazing growth occurs in the unconscious. Nature or God has programmed us to meet a person that we are genuinely, unexplainably and irresistably drawn towards to because our childhood has unfinished business that needs to be healed. In essence, that person becomes a mirror to your deepest need. If you were not heard as a child, you will look at your partner as the lost bond you are yearning for. Therefore, it is best to be vulnerable and honest about your childhood to your genuine partner. If that person accepts you and you accept him, then true healing start. If not, then wait again to meet that 1-in-a-billion person. Or be like most people: rationalize your way to attraction and prepare to tolerate each other in your 60s.

if you've dated a woman that suddenly turned cold turkey by the end of the month, a probable explanation is that she has ended her 'estrus' period and have become cautious. According to the book, 'The Chemistry Between Us,' authored by Dr. Larry Young and Brian Alexander, there are multiple studies on women's behavior during and after ovulation and how it affects their dating behavior. The 'wanton' persona emerges when a woman is ovulating. "With lower sense of anxiety and risk that accompanies ovulation, estrous women may be more willing to make the approach," say Dr. Geoffrey Miller, a psychologist at the University of New Mexico. Dr. Miller and his team conducted a research study titled, ' Ovulation Cycle Effects on Tip Earnings by Lap-Dancers: Economic Evidence for Human Estrus. ' Women earn more during their 'estrous' phase. This unconscious effect is powerful for both sexes. There is literally chemistry between men and women. Men exposed to estrous women show a spike in their testosterone level. This odor variability is no different from various monkey experiments that detail excitement on men when exposed to ovulation 'pheromones'. Humans can also unconsciously detect excitable odors. Moreover, women's physical attractiveness changes during ovulation. Dr. Miller notes that quality of voice of women, skin quality, and body shape ratio also changes during the ovulation timetable. My advise is to take it slow and easy in dating. Your chemistry might be playing tricks on you.

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Once I sense she could be ‘the one,’ I stop thinking short-term . I catch myself talking about meeting her family or making plans months down the road stuff I normally wouldn’t do if I wasn’t serious. I Pay More Attention to Her Feelings I notice her moods and reactions more, and I actually care enough to ask how she’s doing.Even if I’m clueless sometimes, I’m trying harder than before because her emotions matter to me. I Try to Impress Her All Over Again After the early dating phase, I might relax a bit. But once I realize she’s different, I up my game: whether it’s hitting the gym, tidying up my place, or making more effort in general. I want her to see I’m serious, and that I’m not just coasting now that we’re ‘official.’ She Becomes My Priority Suddenly, I’d rather hang out with her than do my usual hobbies or boys’ nights out. Plans with her come first—even if it’s something like running errands together, it feels more important (and more fun) than being anywhere else. I Love Having Her Around—All the Time I want to include her in my social life, from parties to casual get-togethers, because I genuinely enjoy her company. It’s not about showing her off; it’s about wanting her by my side and sharing experiences together. I Get Protective Her well-being comes first. If she’s cold, I’m giving her my jacket; if she’s out late, I’m offering to pick her up. It ’s not just possessiveness—though I might get jealous occasionally—it’s that I really do worry about her safety and comfort. I’ll Step Out of My Comfort Zone for Her If I hate flying or dancing, but she wants to go somewhere that requires it, I’ll swallow my nerves and give it a shot. My Feelings Are Consistent No more hot-and-cold or mixed signals. Once I’m sure, I’m all in. I Care About Her Opinion I ask for her thoughts on everything, from big career moves to smaller day-to-day decisions. She’s part of my future, so her perspective counts. I want her to feel involved,

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New York City is packed with unique spots for a memorable first date! Here are 10 ideas: Walk through Central Park A stroll through Central Park is always romantic, especially if you grab a coffee or have a picnic. You can also rent bikes or row a boat at the Loeb Boathouse. Visit the Museum of Modern Art (MoMA) If you both appreciate art, visiting MoMA is a great way to spark conversation and enjoy world-famous exhibits. Brooklyn Bridge Walk Take a walk across the iconic Brooklyn Bridge, then explore DUMBO for picturesque views of the skyline and great places to grab a bite. Rooftop Bar with a View Head to a rooftop bar like 230 Fifth  or The Press Lounge  for breathtaking views of the city, especially at sunset or after dark. A Night at the Comedy Cellar If you want to laugh together, the Comedy Cellar in Greenwich Village is one of the best comedy clubs in NYC. Great for lighthearted fun and a chance to bond over shared humor. Explore the High Line This elevated park offers great views, art installations, and spots to stop and chat while walking through the Chelsea neighborhood. Catch a Broadway Show Nothing beats the excitement of seeing a Broadway show together. From popular musicals to quirky plays, there's something for everyone. Take a Ferry to Staten Island Hop on the Staten Island Ferry for free views of the Statue of Liberty and the Manhattan skyline. Once you get there, grab a bite and explore Staten Island’s waterfront. Karaoke at Karaoke City If you're in the mood for something fun and interactive, karaoke is a lively and engaging first date idea! Karaoke City offers private rooms for singing your heart out. Indulge in Dessert at Magnolia Bakery Treat yourselves to some iconic NYC sweets, like banana pudding or cupcakes, at the famous Magnolia Bakery. Enjoying a sugary treat is an easy way to break the ice! What kind of vibe are you aiming for? More chill or adventurous?